Honestly, just learn to enjoy AV/IOC (that one is harder), depending on your class you can have a lot of fun as a solo player who hates the big battles. For example if you are stealthy (rogue/druid) just left of the Field of Strife (if looking from the alliance side towards the horde side) under the plateau leading to the horde GY is where there always will be stragglers trying to move early-mid game which can easily get you 30-40 1v1s in one AV, depending on how the battle moves you can stay here or move to capture the towers in the vicinity or go towards the enemy base (if you are losing the bg) and get the people that spawned at their base or are new to the bg (this one obviously only work for alliance). Or if you land atop the enemy Hq in IOC as a caster/hunter.
For each "role" (like a stealthy class, or a warlock or or or) there are different spots where you can have proper, fun, pvp instead of a massive slugfest where only one side will dominate. You just have to find them. And learn how to use them. Suddenly the games become fun instead of worrying one minute about the result, witnessing the frist battle and either going semi afk or sweeping the whole bg.