Making a poll about "Do we make custom changes to balance the game" sound ok to me, but it have to be in game since only small portion of players are active in forums. What i am not OK with will be asking " Shall we nerf EMFH", and the reason for that is people who have never done any PVP or plan to do any PVP will be able to effect the results.
As for other points, i don't want to white wall of text about something that have been discussed already many times. In short my position about custom changes is that they lead to other custom changes. People already use the existence of current custom changes as argument to add new one. Here is quote that just confirm what i said.
In short my position is i wanna play 3.3.5 WOTLK, not custom fun server, its as simple as that.
Also i wanna point out cross-realm and MM didnt fail and cause the current BG situation. What failed was gear bracket. Before that at least half of Alliance players in BG was undergeared and it was not that hard to win as Horde. We had balance back them. sometimes it was impossible to win as Alliance for hours, sometimes you was constantly winning as Ally. Now if you are in higher GS bracket you will always face this competitive PVP Alliance players who are fully geared, so Horde are getting complete demolished pretty much all day.