Annoying tactic in isle of conquest

Hello everybody
recently i started playing again, and i found out a new way of being ganked in the battleground "isle of conquest"
the opposing team would let us cap its base while hiding in the fortress, then come out and farm us at their graveyard.

It's commong to find very unbalanced battlegrounds (at least 2 in 3 in my experience) so i'm ok with being steamrolled every once in a while, as it can happen in arathi basin when the opposing team has all the flags and farm us at the starting gy while they win BUT this feels very different.

This map is designed to clash and win by killing the opposing commander, and the reinforcements dynamic should be there to resolve draws. In this case it seems to be that it is being abused to farm honor point by killing many players. Furthermore, if i try to move to another graveyard i get automatically kicked from the battleground as it may take too much (e.g. if meanwhile they cap the middle gy).

All an all, this makes for a very unfortunate choice: either keep spawning and be killed repeatedly for some 10-15 min (which feels very bad in my body and i don't think its a healty stimulus to recieve), or just get out of the bg and wait for 151 mins (the latter being preferable to me, but still very annoying).

I would like to know how many other players in the community have experienced this kind of situations, and if you can think of some solution. Otherwise i feel like this would lead me to play less bg, of engage less when i see this kind of bg.

Please by kind, i feel very bad when i read aggressive of blaming texts in forums <3

Worst thing is that horde always have atleast one player on alliance side who do cap gy and also pull boss to wipe everybody. This should be bannable behaviour. I really love to play bg:s but this ruins fun for me totally. I still play and hope that some kind of solution comes quickly to this. I agree 100% with op. Good post and really important!