Oh intrepid explorer, would you verify this firsthand for us?
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Agreed. Probably 8 times out of 10, I won't even consider someone if I don't find them attractive.
If you won't consider someone unless they're attractive to you, then you may have your priorities out of order.
Some modicum of attraction is required for love, sure, but it is not its primary motivator. And in regards to your previous post to me, of course there's more to love than knowing someone, but, it is impossible to love someone if you do not know them. You can only be infatuated if you do not know them. Love is a bond far, far deeper than what gets your nethers twitching.
Love is arguably one of the most subjective experiences mankind can experience. Assuming your experience allows you to determine the exact nature of other amorous circumstances is pretty...haughty, I guess. At least, that's how you're coming off. Maybe you genuinely are trying to give helpful advice.
@Link: Oink oink.
I don't really think stating the fact that you can't actually love someone without knowing them is really "haughty" ^^; More like a basic logical fact. Love requires some kind of relationship. You cannot be in a relationship with someone you don't know. Sorry if the way I put it sounds high and mighty? I don't mean it that way.
If I don't find you gorgeous, I simply will not be interested. You need to have amazing looks (in my opinion, **** what anyone else thinks) and an amazing personality. And obviously I'm speaking for myself and I look for in someone.
If you just have an amazing personality. We can be friends. But our relationship won't go any further than that. If you're beautiful but a total *****. Well, **** off lol.
And when you say, "you need to know them". Does that mean you need to know everything and anything about the person you're after?