Share something pointless about your life!

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Originally Posted by Radvo

So yes. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The fact that I know she is into the same stuff (hobbies) as me makes her 10x prettier. Beauty isn't all about physical appearance (though it usually helps, for me it's the face that matters most, especially the smile).

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Exactly. Just do you.

My standards pretty much are.

Big eyes. Don't really care about color.
Amazing smile.
Preferably dark hair. Don't really care for blondes.
Don't like tall women.
Healthy body type. You don't need to be rocking a 6 pack and have huge boobs. But just be healthy. This pretty much means average.

Personality.
Has to be intelligent.
Has to argue with me.
Which means she has to be as stubborn as I am.
Wholesome
Funny

A lot of people say I have high standards and I should lower them but I simply cannot date someone that doesn't meet my standards. If I'm not interested, I'm just not interested. It wouldn't be fair to anyone if I went out and dated someone that didn't actually meet my standards. And there are A LOT of people out there and I have a ****load of confidence so I KNOW I can find someone that'll match my standards or even go beyond them. I've found two people so far that I have gone beyond my standards and I'm currently back with one of them.

As long as you're happy with that person. And as long as you wake up feeling like that luckiest guy ever. That's all that matters.

I can't help but feel like you're describing someone here on the forum that you may or may not have a crush on.

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Originally Posted by Lynea

I can't help but feel like you're describing someone here on the forum that you may or may not have a crush on.

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There are a lot of women on here with dark hair and big eyes.

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but u all fugly

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jk

I'm very shy, shallow, ugly but cute at the same time. I have a weird personality: I hate myself but at the same time I think I'm better than everyone.
I want someone that can:
Stand my eccentric personality
Accept me exactly the way I am, and won't try to change me
Be eccentric themselves. I want someone at least as weird as me.
I don't care too much about appearance. I'm not very hot myself and I have an uncommon style to dress.

I think love is extremely subject. You can't say how to love or how love happens. There are many variables. You can love even someone ugly or abusive under the right circumstances.

"Dating checklists" are a funny thing. The only people who could try claiming they actually only date people that are/have/aren't/don't have this and that are people with so many others throwing themselves at them that they get to pick and choose, case in which feelings aren't really that involved.

Anyone who sincerely likes someone won't go through a checklist beforehand or ditch someone because they don't get enough "checks." You could be lucky to actually get together with someone that matches your preferences, but screening people based on a list is bare shallowness. Feelings don't work like that, so these checklists would only have any meaning (or truth behind them) if you're talking about utterly disposable casual dating.

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Originally Posted by Obnoxious

"Dating checklists" are a funny thing. The only people who could try claiming they actually only date people that are/have/aren't/don't have this and that are people with so many others throwing themselves at them that they get to pick and choose, case in which feelings aren't really that involved.

Anyone who sincerely likes someone won't go through a checklist beforehand or ditch someone because they don't get enough "checks." You could be lucky to actually get together with someone that matches your preferences, but screening people based on a list is bare shallowness. Feelings don't work like that, so these checklists would only have any meaning (or truth behind them) if you're talking about utterly disposable casual dating.

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How are the babes in Brasil?

Depends on which part. You know, like the rest of the world.
It's a well known fact that the further south you go, the better looking and more abundant they get, though. But besides that, they're women. Usual pros, usual cons in general, for something more specific you need a more specific subject.

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Originally Posted by Obnoxious

"Dating checklists" are a funny thing. The only people who could try claiming they actually only date people that are/have/aren't/don't have this and that are people with so many others throwing themselves at them that they get to pick and choose, case in which feelings aren't really that involved.

Anyone who sincerely likes someone won't go through a checklist beforehand or ditch someone because they don't get enough "checks." You could be lucky to actually get together with someone that matches your preferences, but screening people based on a list is bare shallowness. Feelings don't work like that, so these checklists would only have any meaning (or truth behind them) if you're talking about utterly disposable casual dating.

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I agree with you to an extent. These "checklists" are mainly aimed towards dating. There's too much **** that I would have to consider if I was actually out and trying to pick out my future wife. But my "checklist" is just something that would hook me in. Sure, a woman wouldn't need to meet EVERY requirement on my list.

But there are two deal breakers for me. If I'm not physically attracted to a woman. I can't date her. Even if I found her personality to be perfect. I would have no sexual attraction to her and I would view her as more of a friend than a girlfriend/partner. Which wouldn't be fair to her. And it's not necessarily a bad thing.

Every girl I have dated or I have been interested in have met most of my requirements. I know where I should start when looking for someone and after each relationship, I learn. I learn more about myself and I learn what I like and don't like. Is there a possibility that there is a woman out there that meets non of my requirements but I would still fall in love with her? Sure. I wouldn't necessarily mind going out on a date with someone that doesn't meet most of my requirements.

But chances are. I most likely won't be interested.

My current gf is, for the most part, everything I'd want. Does she have flaws? **** yeah. I'm not perfect either but I wouldn't change her flaws if I could. It wouldn't be her and I'm with her because of who she is.

I'm just saying that if you want to catch my attention at a party, Obnoxious. You better have dark hair and big eyes. You better be somewhat fit/average. And after you catch my attention, we can find out the details through dating.

Obnoxious, will you go out on a date with me?

I'll take you out to Mcdonalds and you can get one thing off the dollar menu because I spoil mah dates c:

My point is summed up with what I said: feelings just don't work based on what you want. Your checklist is much more based on instinct and social environment than anything else. Of course we all have our "perfect person" list. It's just thinking that you can restrict your feelings based on it that is delusional. Falling for someone you would have never imagined yourself with isn't all that rare, but you do understand that from what you say.

I do have long dark brown hair. Never been told I have small eyes, guess they might be closer to large. Unfortunately I don't like the taste of meat and despise McDonald's. I'm not cheap either. Oh yeah, guys don't really do it for me either.

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Originally Posted by Obnoxious

I do have long dark brown hair. Never been told I have small eyes, guess they might be closer to large. Unfortunately I don't like the taste of meat and despise McDonald's. I'm not cheap either. Oh yeah, guys don't really do it for me either.

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Not sure if Male or Lesbian...

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Originally Posted by backwardsblues

If you won't consider someone unless they're attractive to you, then you may have your priorities out of order.

Some modicum of attraction is required for love, sure, but it is not its primary motivator. And in regards to your previous post to me, of course there's more to love than knowing someone, but, it is impossible to love someone if you do not know them. You can only be infatuated if you do not know them. Love is a bond far, far deeper than what gets your nethers twitching.

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XDDDDDD
Manned up a year back or 2, and got dumped because of my ******ness...didn't even talked to the girl XD.
GOD I was soo stupid back then xD

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Originally Posted by Obnoxious

"Dating checklists" are a funny thing. The only people who could try claiming they actually only date people that are/have/aren't/don't have this and that are people with so many others throwing themselves at them that they get to pick and choose, case in which feelings aren't really that involved.

Anyone who sincerely likes someone won't go through a checklist beforehand or ditch someone because they don't get enough "checks." You could be lucky to actually get together with someone that matches your preferences, but screening people based on a list is bare shallowness. Feelings don't work like that, so these checklists would only have any meaning (or truth behind them) if you're talking about utterly disposable casual dating.

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QFT. Sums up my stance pretty well.

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Originally Posted by Obnoxious

"Dating checklists" are a funny thing. The only people who could try claiming they actually only date people that are/have/aren't/don't have this and that are people with so many others throwing themselves at them that they get to pick and choose, case in which feelings aren't really that involved.

Anyone who sincerely likes someone won't go through a checklist beforehand or ditch someone because they don't get enough "checks." You could be lucky to actually get together with someone that matches your preferences, but screening people based on a list is bare shallowness. Feelings don't work like that, so these checklists would only have any meaning (or truth behind them) if you're talking about utterly disposable casual dating.

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I suggest reading 'The Rosie Project'. You'll like it a lot. You donÔÇÖt find love, it finds you.

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Originally Posted by Obnoxious

"Dating checklists" are a funny thing. The only people who could try claiming they actually only date people that are/have/aren't/don't have this and that are people with so many others throwing themselves at them that they get to pick and choose, case in which feelings aren't really that involved.

Anyone who sincerely likes someone won't go through a checklist beforehand or ditch someone because they don't get enough "checks." You could be lucky to actually get together with someone that matches your preferences, but screening people based on a list is bare shallowness. Feelings don't work like that, so these checklists would only have any meaning (or truth behind them) if you're talking about utterly disposable casual dating.

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Yep, this right here wins the discussion.

Long live Obnoxious the Love Doctor.