Share something pointless about your life!

[Shiina]

I would difinitely say eyes, but then something in my mind says "hips". Not boobs, not asses...hips!

You confuse me.


Is there a problem with a woman finding herself attractive?

[Orphic]

OK I worded that wrong, I apologise. OK then Devon.

"how do you perceive another human you are sexually aattracted to, like whats the first thing you see in a person?"

Face first. Always.

Extremely.



Honestly speaking, this sort of information and education does help relationships.



I don't know. I find most men to either be insensitive, or I expect ones I don't know to be insensitive, especially the more attractive they are. I expect attractive men to be cocky/confident to a fault. I'm used to them over-extending on me and trying to force themselves on me. I have a very hard time not generalizing men, and that's thanks to the way I have been treated by the vast majority of them that I know. I try not to, but as I said, it is hard.

Other women on the other hand, I don't know, but I find myself feel far more comfortable around other women. To the point where I have no problems flirting, even.

Though I think there's the possibility I misunderstood you and you were looking for a response like Shiina's? If that's the case, then I must say I have a thing for hips. Is it strange that I admire my own?

While you have good reason, it's not entirely fair to look at men that way in general. You acknowledge it, though. That's good.

This conversation is educational. I never knew half this stuff.

[Kemii]

I don't know. I find most men to either be insensitive, or I expect ones I don't know to be insensitive, especially the more attractive they are. I expect attractive men to be cocky/confident to a fault. I'm used to them over-extending on me and trying to force themselves on me. I have a very hard time not generalizing men, and that's thanks to the way I have been treated by the vast majority of them that I know. I try not to, but as I said, it is hard.

Other women on the other hand, I don't know, but I find myself feel far more comfortable around other women. To the point where I have no problems flirting, even.

Though I think there's the possibility I misunderstood you and you were looking for a response like Shiina's? If that's the case, then I must say I have a thing for hips. Is it strange that I admire my own?

Actually no, I was looking for answers like this. I'm seriously glad I'm not the only one who feels this way about how men portray themselves. The overconfident arrogant players who are stereo typically attractive.

Whereas I'm actually more bothered about how a person is, their personality, their humourisms, the way they are as a person rather than a object of desire. This is the biggest turn on, a person living to their own exceptions and standards, not to try and conform with society. So yes, in a short view of it, self esteem and personality.

At the end of the day your looking forward to finding that someone to spend your life with, I'd rather go to sleep at night next to someone who I find the ability to be myself with, who would give as much as he receives....

I however am not a fan of female company. However I have made out with a few, normally involving alcohol though.

[Mercy]

I'm happy to teach some, I suppose. I'm just a bit shy talking about these things with people I'm not toooo familiar with. Also, I have an image to uphold here on the forum, so I don't want to come across as some sort of slut. Especially when I haven't committed the heinous 'dirty act' before.

[Lawl]

Extremely.



Honestly speaking, this sort of information and education does help relationships.



I don't know. I find most men to either be insensitive, or I expect ones I don't know to be insensitive, especially the more attractive they are. I expect attractive men to be cocky/confident to a fault. I'm used to them over-extending on me and trying to force themselves on me. I have a very hard time not generalizing men, and that's thanks to the way I have been treated by the vast majority of them that I know. I try not to, but as I said, it is hard.

Other women on the other hand, I don't know, but I find myself feel far more comfortable around other women. To the point where I have no problems flirting, even.

Though I think there's the possibility I misunderstood you and you were looking for a response like Shiina's? If that's the case, then I must say I have a thing for hips. Is it strange that I admire my own?

Talking about this makes relationships so much better. Especially if you're talking with your significant other. Learning what your significant other loves and enjoys makes everything so much easier and more fun because you love making your partner happy.

And personally, I'm pretty confident in myself. I will approach any women if I find her interesting and talk to her. But I never push it too far. If she's not interested, ah well, move on or just tone it down a bit on the hitting/flirting lol.

[Shiina]

Whereas I'm actually more bothered about how a person is, their personality, their humourisms, the way they are as a person rather than a object of desire. This is the biggest turn on, a person living to their own exceptions and standards, not to try and conform with society. So yes, in a short view of it, self esteem and personality.

Well yeah, of course that takes priority over any physical appearance normally. I don't really consider someone being a decent person being something I look at to be quite honest, it's more of just like... an expectation that I have. I wouldn't bother with a girl, no matter how attractive, if she was a complete ***** all of the time.

I however am not a fan of female company.

Strange.

[Kemii]

Orphic you can ask me anything. In all my years of being a girl, the things I have done (I was gonna say Haven't also, then I released it would be a lie). You are always free to as me a question. Athought the answers are based around a 20 something girl who's been in a serious relationship for 5 years and before that very few conquests.

Love is something we've all failed at, not reach out far enough, not treated correctly or just generally **** up with.

Strange.

Why?

[Orphic]

I'm happy to teach some, I suppose. I'm just a bit shy talking about these things with people I'm not toooo familiar with. Also, I have an image to uphold here on the forum, so I don't want to come across as some sort of slut. Especially when I haven't committed the heinous 'dirty act' before.

You've taught me more in a few pages than I knew over 17 years, so...

Orphic you can ask me anything. In all my years of being a girl, the things I have done (I was gonna say Haven't also, then I released it would be a lie). You are always free to as me a question. Athought the answers are based around a 20 something girl who's been in a serious relationship for 5 years and before that very few conquests.

Love is something we've all failed at, not reach out far enough, not treated correctly or just generally **** up with.



Why?

While that sounds interesting, it won't help me much in the long run. After all, it's not like I'll be able to put it use when I date again...unless it's general stuff. I wonder if dating is as stressful for each sex.

[Mercy]

If I find you attractive and you push it too far, I won't even consider you. If I find you attractive and you show me you know when to stop and know how to be respectful, you'll perk my interest.

You can call me shallow for being only interested in people I find physically attractive if you want, but you're going to be fooling yourself if you think that physical attraction doesn't play any significant role.

"So what are you attracted to then?"
Well, as I said earlier, I have a thing for hips. Something I have in common with Medios, apparently. heh. I mean man hips, though. It's hard to explain. After that, it comes down to a matter of cleanliness and composure. Do you look clean? How do you stand, hold yourself, position yourself? I look for signs of confidence, and any aggressive body language will turn me off right away. I look for a confident guy who is gentle by nature. Having the ability to be gentle is not enough (though I find that many men have a VERY different definition of "gentle" than I do), it has to come by naturally and be a part of your personality.

Another quality I like in guys is the ability to read my body language, and are capable of getting "touchy-feely" without making me feel uncomfortable by going to certain spots too early.

Strange.

It's perfectly normal if she's used to bad female company.

I wonder if dating is as stressful for each sex.

That depends. If the woman has self-esteem issues anything like my own, then she's in for a VERY rough night. For the most part, we try to look our best in every way; sexuality, prettiness, composure and trying to pull off something interesting or unique enough to keep the guy's attention. It's definitely a night full of emotional wreckage.

[Shiina]

I'm happy to teach some, I suppose. I'm just a bit shy talking about these things with people I'm not toooo familiar with. Also, I have an image to uphold here on the forum, so I don't want to come across as some sort of slut. Especially when I haven't committed the heinous 'dirty act' before.

Anybody that would think less of you, or anyone for that matter, for talking about things like this are honestly just embarrassed by the subject themselves. There's nothing wrong with talking about one's sexuality and what they find attractive, so long as you're not being rude to others.

Talking about this makes relationships so much better. Especially if you're talking with your significant other. Learning what your significant other loves and enjoys makes everything so much easier and more fun because you love making your partner happy.

And personally, I'm pretty confident in myself. I will approach any women if I find her interesting and talk to her. But I never push it too far. If she's not interested, ah well, move on or just tone it down a bit on the hitting/flirting lol.

Yeah. Despite being really shy, if I take interest in someone, I'm not usually hesitant to approach them and try to strike up a conversation, or just generally show that I am interested in them.

I really dislike when people (and I only see this in females) take your interest in them as you making a move on them, and get sort of insulted by it.

Why?

It's just unusual for females to be hesitant/dislike the company of other females.

It's perfectly normal if she's used to bad female company.

I'm not saying it's not normal, or that it's bad, just that it's something I don't see very often.

[Kemii]

While that sounds interesting, it won't help me much in the long run. After all, it's not like I'll be able to put it use when I date again...unless it's general stuff. I wonder if dating is as stressful for each sex.

So don't bother dating.. Break up with someone, have awesome rebound sex with your BF's brother in law = Profit. We went on one "date"... Well I dragged him Odeon to see Twilight, if that counts.

[Mercy]

I don't know about you, Jyx, or any of the guys here, but sex is definitely not on my mind when I go on a date. I'm far too worried about what the guy thinks of me. All the dates I've had were successful, though, and I'm the one that ended the relationship with each of them. I bet at least one of them thinks I'm evil.

[Orphic]

So don't bother dating.. Break up with someone, have awesome rebound sex with your BF's brother in law = Profit. We went on one "date"... Well I dragged him Odeon to see Twilight, if that counts.

what...what? no, no. I won't do that :c

Grace, how do you feel about the men in this chat? Are we among the men you view with higher regard?

[Lawl]

You've taught me more in a few pages than I knew over 17 years, so...



While that sounds interesting, it won't help me much in the long run. After all, it's not like I'll be able to put it use when I date again...unless it's general stuff. I wonder if dating is as stressful for each sex.

Every date I've gone on. Even with my current gf that I've known for 7 years. I still get nervous. It's not as bad now but I used to feeling throwing up due to how anxious and nervous I would get lol.

[Aarkiel]

Well I dragged him Odeon to see Twilight, if that counts.

Oh no..... :(
Not Twilight...poor him... ;(

Jk #Sparkle sparkly sparkle
I never liked Twlight, no offense. Diff people, diff opinions I guess.