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[magaginho]

I just don't know what I should do. Should I close my eyes, realize that she simply doesn't want a relationship with me and try to fix our friendship. Or should I look at it the other way and see how much I was drained and scratch her off.

Take it as a lesson - Make a proper reflection of everything that was good and bad and save it for yourself. After you have your mind set and done with your own feelings everything will make much more sense and everything will be easier to decide.

The answer is within yourself and not in our replies. This is the wisest advice I can give you.

[taralej]

Here are the two points of my conflict, by Arbiterone and Obnoxious.

Arbiter, sometimes I think that she just wants to spend time with someone else, too. When I asked her why she liked hanging out with me, she said she was having a really good time with me and she also really liked it when we get intimate. At some point I fell more and more into despair for not being able to make her feel the way I felt for her, so I wasn't good company for her anymore. I don't know if you've ever felt that way - I loved her and I'd do anything for her, but she just didn't feel the same way, even though we dated, even though we had a good time. Honestly, I expected her to do something about it - to try and fix it. But she just didn't want to fix it, rather she wanted me to accept that we won't be together. Then she also stopped desiring me and with that it all ended.

Obnoxious, I guess you're right. She has many downsides, like all people, like me, but I wasn't even seeing them as downsides, except one - she didn't love me. She didn't want to be in a serious relationship with me. I really wish there was something I could do to fix it, because I feel helpless. I wish we could make up and I guess that probably the best thing to do right now is just leave her be. But what if she doesn't come back? What if she's left thinking that I'm this miserable pathetic needy stalker she thinks I am? All I ever wanted was to have the time of my life with her, both during university and while in the UK. And how are we going to spend the summer in UK together then? Living under one roof, sharing the food, the bills, working at the same place... I don't want to spend the summer living with someone who thinks so low of me after we had such a good time together. I'm afraid it will only further poison me.

I think what magaginho said would be best. I need to somehow calm down and stop thinking about our past relationship. Even she told me that it won't help if I keep bringing back what we had. In the end, I realize that she really isn't the person for me. She is so radical in her beliefs, so uncompromising and selfish in her prospects that she just isn't fit for a serious relationship with me. I just really want to know if we can and should be friends or not. Is she really the awesome person I met last November, or is she someone who pretty much got the best of me and then left me?

[Arbiterone]

Obnoxious, I guess you're right. She has many downsides, like all people, like me, but I wasn't even seeing them as downsides, except one - she didn't love me. She didn't want to be in a serious relationship with me. I really wish there was something I could do to fix it, because I feel helpless. I wish we could make up and I guess that probably the best thing to do right now is just leave her be. But what if she doesn't come back? What if she's left thinking that I'm this miserable pathetic needy stalker she thinks I am? And how are we going to spend the summer in UK together then? Living under one roof, sharing the food, the bills, working at the same place... I don't want to spend the summer living with someone who thinks so low of me after we had such a good time together. I'm afraid it will only further poison me.

Change your mindset, it will take maybe a night of sleep or two but you'll soon get it. Instead of blaming yourself and becoming miserable, stand proud and look ahead. She rejected you? Shame, you could've been happy together, but now you'll continue doing whatevever you do in life and continue to work towards your goals, and become a better man. One day you'll become a successful man and she'll regret it, but by then you'll have found a better person for you.
I take relationships as a way to gain motivation to continue working towards my goals in life. If I invest energy in one is because it makes sense to do so, not just for the moment. Don't take it as the main thing in life and that you have failed everything if you didn't get what you wanted, another person who appreciates you will appear someday.

[Baleroc]

The cheating wasn't the reason she broke up with her ex. She felt like things were going nowhere with him for the last several months. Indeed, I helped her get out of her misery. It's just that I hoped I could be the next best thing in her life. And it didn't work out that way. It didn't work out that way at all...

No offense, but the fact you already knew that she cheated on her 'ex', before/while she was with you, makes you aware of her attitude, and how she treats other people. In that regard, I have no empathy for people who already know that they are cheaters.

Once someone has cheated on someone, regardless of whether it was your relationship or not - you stay away from them. It doesn't matter If they did it once, or to someone else - the point is, if they did it once, to someone - they would do it again to you.

Since you already knew that, then you're already aware of what's happened in the past; so effectively, you should have known better than to date a person who had cheated on someone else.

[Obnoxious]

Obnoxious, I guess you're right. She has many downsides, like all people, like me, but I wasn't even seeing them as downsides, except one - she didn't love me. She didn't want to be in a serious relationship with me. I really wish there was something I could do to fix it, because I feel helpless. I wish we could make up and I guess that probably the best thing to do right now is just leave her be. But what if she doesn't come back? What if she's left thinking that I'm this miserable pathetic needy stalker she thinks I am? All I ever wanted was to have the time of my life with her, both during university and while in the UK. And how are we going to spend the summer in UK together then? Living under one roof, sharing the food, the bills, working at the same place... I don't want to spend the summer living with someone who thinks so low of me after we had such a good time together. I'm afraid it will only further poison me.

If she doesn't comes back, that's called "life," as is if she's left with a permanent bad impression. You can't force people to like you.
I can't tell how you're going to spend the summer with her. Might be better to call it off instead, perhaps - assuming she doesn't do it herself.

[taralej]

Thank you for your words, Arbiterone. I'll try and do that, really. I fear that if I do not do it, I will stay the crushed little person I am right now.

Baleroc, it was strange for me too. Yes, she had cheated on him before, once. I said "I thought you're against cheating", she answered "well, I was just having a good time, then I met that guy and he was really cool and handsome". All the time she was giving me the mixed signals at the start I was sure she liked me, but I was like "wtf am I doing?! she's still with her boyfriend - I mustn't fall for it" and so she made the first step - we were out at a friend's place, together with some 10-15 other fellows, we had a really good time and then I walked her back home. We stopped and I hugged her tight, like I always did, then as I was getting ready to leave she invited me upstairs. I kept acting cool, telling myself I mustn't do anything because she's still with him, but then she did it... I was like "omg, she's actually cheating on him with me" and then I just let it go... That's how we started.

[taralej]

If she doesn't comes back, that's called "life," as is if she's left with a permanent bad impression. You can't force people to like you.
I can't tell how you're going to spend the summer with her. Might be better to call it off instead, perhaps - assuming she doesn't do it herself.

I don't want to leave her with such an impression, man. Not her. I never wanted to make her feel that way. I just wanted to make her happy. I am still thinking about calling it off - that's why I haven't bought my own ticket yet. But then I'll face legal issues and I'll look even more miserable in her eyes... Gosh, why do I care so much how she sees me?! Arbiter is right - I should just suck it up and have a good time over there instead. I just hope I'll have the willpower. Right now I don't.

And no, she won't call it off. Honestly, right now she doesn't care one bit whether I go or not. That's kind of the saddest part...

[TheClam]

I can honestly say that you're too deeply in love with this girl regardless of the objective truth and you ignore advices hoping this or that.
She cheated multiple times during a 5 years relationship, probably the last time being with you. She doesn't love you, she probably used you as some sort of distraction. It may be hard to comprehend but a girl does't think or care about the consequences in a relationship that isn't strong. I doubt you're the perfect guy to make her totaly loyal to you and fully love you. Just imagine that at this time she is likely """dating""" someone else.
That being said, if a girl doesn't like you, she just doesn't like you. No ammount of stalking and hoping will change that.

Maybe, just maybe ou could try to move on, better yourself, date other girls. I don't see why you're so obsessed with her when she isn't even all that nice.

[Obnoxious]

I don't see why you're so obsessed with her when she isn't even all that nice.

Maybe she has a great pair of firm tits and a round *** out of this world.

[TheClam]

Maybe she has a great pair of firm tits and a round *** out of this world.

Well she cheated on her ex and hates our guy. With all her tits and big *** out of this world, she still isn't so nice and will never be girlfriend material for our guy.

[taralej]

Oh god, Obnoxious :D You're right, by the way - she was indeed super hot. I was eating her out like an ice cream cone 'till her eyes would roll and she'd squirm on the sheets. Before we dated she said she wasn't a screamer. That changed too.

The objective truth is harsh and salty, yes. I lost her because I wanted her too much and became dependent. She could be with another guy right now, for all she cares. Still, I got obsessed, Clam. I just tried to make her feel the same way I felt for her. She did like me. That thing gave me hope that maybe things will work out eventually. But she didn't love me. She never tried, as I said. She just thought that nothing would come out in the long run and none of my efforts could change this in any way. On the contrary, they only made it worse, as Obnoxious said.

[taralej]

Thank you for all the support, fellows! To all of you - Obnoxious, Arbiterone, TheClam, magaginho and I hope I didn't miss anyone - thank you!

[Radvo]

Hearthstone gets more concurrent players than WoW....

Hearthstone is a TCG...

They are now releasing content in WoW based on Hearthstone expansions... (should be the other way around...)


Blizzard.... What....

[Link]

What I'm running for myself is a pair of tri res, move speed and life boots, made sure they have an open prefix so i could craft 12% WED onto them. It's imo the best option, but I'm also very resist dependent since I'm running a lightning coil, unique gloves & helmet + offensive quiver and neck. If i was using an EV chest I would just use insanely offensive rings (life+wed+attack speed+flat elemental roll+accuracy).I would recommend you to give blast rain a shot for single target (blast rain, added light, added cold/critchance w.e your colors can manage but cold is preferred, conc, WED). It outperforms frenzy by a long shot even if the tooltip doesn't show it. I got frenzy on a 3link with curse on hit to keep up my frenzy charges once bloodrage drops during boss fights.

That being said, I designed my build around end game mapping, hence why my build could be a lot more offensive then it is. So just keep in mind I got a slight bias towards defensiveness over damage. I don't really map with more then 3 people usually, which is why i focus on the defensive side of things.

how does my gear look now

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I could drop the chest + boots for a lightning coil but i kind of spent too much on that amulet

[Shiina]

At some point I fell more and more into despair for not being able to make her feel the way I felt for her, so I wasn't good company for her anymore. I don't know if you've ever felt that way - I loved her and I'd do anything for her, but she just didn't feel the same way.

Dawg

I feel u

heres what you do

decide if even after all the bull**** she apparently pulled, if you still think she's worth chasing after.
if yes: make it well known that you're interested and are there for her, but don't push it
if no: do what you should and cut connections