That last one was just a wall of text and I'm just gonna say, I didn't bother reading it. I can understand (a)wanting to defend your point, and (b) seek understanding about large amount of boxers, I feel like you are missing a huge (and very subtle) point.
That boxer has to take the time, to gear, set up and learn to play (most of the time by getting defeated many times), I spent 6 months on my 14 man priest team. (at first i was getting wiped by 3 players) Donating skips this, however unless you have money to burn, this isn't an option. not to mention harassed to no end all while doing it.
i.e. the opposite faction takes the time to log over just to whisper you till you get fed up and ignore them, or members of your own faction constantly telling you how to play, what to do all while never boxing themselves.
I can understand your frustration if you got beat or killed, or in some cases ganked, however that bottom line is this, the staff isn't likely to change their stance on boxing, so what I recommend is either (a) start boxing so you can fully understand what it entails, or (b) make a boxing friend and ask them all the questions when he isn't busy.