There were so many gemming parry, because they've absolutely no idea what's going on in this game.
Parry rating increases the chance you completely avoid an attack with a parry, while dodge rating increases the chance you completely avoid an attack with a dodge. Said like that there's little difference, however, if you manage to parry an attack your next swing will be faster (google parry-hasting wotlk for more detailed info). Also another big difference, and the answer as to why paladongs/any tank gemming parry is a bad idea, is that parry rating DRs faster compared to dodge.
DR-diminishing returns. What does it mean? Just as an example (not real figures)
100 parry rating - 1% parry chance
100 dodge rating - 1% dodge chance;
220 parry rating - 2% parry chance
210 dodge rating - 2% dodge chance
In translation, you will need more parry rating to get to a higher % avoidance compared to dodge.
You will want to get the 540 defense (read defense, not defense rating, there's a difference) in order to not get critted by a boss. Also I highly recommend getting at least spell hit capped (17% total needed).