I honestly couldn't care less if my parents are ready for it or not. That in addition to the fact that they recognize it's my decision, not theirs. So I don't see how that has anything to do with it. But to each their own I guess.
Obviously I initially misunderstood you, but still. Being in my mid-to-late twenties, I know that myself and most other women I know around my age are established enough to where they can have a child if they so choose. I could understand if you're talking about 21-22 as "early twenties". It's going to change person to person anyway. I've had a fairly well established life since before I graduated from high school. It is possible, you know. And women who don't have children in their teens, here in the US, often I see that they are pretty well off.
I agree. Especially from the point of view of someone who isn't aging well medically.
Ultimately, in the scale of the universe, everything we do or say is pointless.
Either way, this thread has been used for whatever sort of discussion since like page 5.
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I think he's talking about the situation of the parents of the baby in question (in addition to age), not the grandparents, lol. For example, financial security (sufficient stable income), living situation (safe child friendly environment not prone to moving) and whatever mental fortitude raising children undoubtedly requires.
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I just want tomorrow to be saturday and the day after that to be the 4th of september so I can go to turkey
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I've been wondering why you people jumped the kids bandwagon so readily, yet you haven't married?
I usderstand not marrying unless you 100% know you're compatible, I would do the same. Yet you made a child so fast out of a previously e-relationship. You posted details about your relationship so frequently that I think everyone here knows every detail about how things are going between you two.
So I must ask, why the hell make a child so? Why before marriage? Why before living together for at the very least a year?
It's not my place to judge either of you but it seems to me (MY PERSONAL, HONEST OPINION PEOPLE, CHILL OUT INB4 YOU HATE ON ME AGAIN) that Ricks lost his judgement for a little there. I can't imagine why would anyone as smart as you guys seem to be make a kid so readily, when you haven't spent at least two years together under the same roof, in the same bed and eating on the same table.
Then again, there are girls MY AGE with kids so maybe I'm tye weird one having these thoughts of marriage and precaution.
What if, upon living together and with a child on the way, you discover that Ricks is not th perfect guy you thought he was? Or the otherwise? It seems that you wanted a child and Ricks went along because he's in love (which is admirable imo).
Ok, I welcome all the hate posts I will get, passive aggressive remarks and attacks on my level of maturity.
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How do you know it was planned, and not an happy accident? There was absolutely no mention of anything to state that they were actually planning this.
You appear to be passing off your opinions and beliefs far too quickly without a full grasp of the situation.
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Yes, see the paragraph directly below what you quoted, "lol".
You're right. It's not your place to judge them. I share Adeptis' point of view. And in all honesty, I don't think that info is anyone's business. Alli announced it, I am happy for her and Ricks, I wish them the best. But I won't say things as if I could know their relationship better than they do.
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o.o new sub forum! when did this happen?!?!?!
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Well, I didn't fall off the noob wagon. There is no manual on how to carry a decent relationship. We have a tight grip on our lives. We are late 20's (age technically doesn't have a pull but, we aren't reckless 16 and pregnant). Its not like we just met each other this year and I am not a first time mom. I am aware of peoples ideal thought on how should things be done. But behind closed doors, where no one really know us, who's to say our relationship should be ran a certain way?
Edited: August 20, 2015
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Not a first time mom? As in, you have another child or you took care of other children as a mother ough to?
Unrelated, I've been drinking 1'5 liters of Monster over the last 4 hours. How likely am I to die of heart failure and what should I include in my death letter??::
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Your more resistant than that,yuma-chan
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Both.
Well, I'm going to sleep. I am about to repeat a 10 hour shift today.
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What does marriage has to do with anything?
From a legal standpoint, having the kid is worth more than being legally married. No one would judge in favor of a father ditching the mother and child because "well, they aren't married." What's left besides that? The approval of an imaginary friend?
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society can be racist toward that occasionally,from my experience
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This sub forum has always existed for as long as I've been around. It was temporarily disabled for a long while, but we re-enabled it quite a while back.
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Best thing about working in IT:
Note! Below is what I remember, she or I may not have worded exactly like that
*phone rings*
Me:
"Hello, this is <me> from <our company> how may I help you?"
Woman:
"Hello, yes I would like adobe on my laptop"
Me:
"Okay, what exactly from adobe?"
Woman:
"CS6, everything"
Me:
"Okay, do you need help installing?"
Woman:
"Yes, I need the installers"
Me:
"Did it not offer a download link with the purchase or a dvd?"
Woman:
"I didn't buy it, that's why I called you"
Me:
"Okay, I'm going to inform our marketing department and con.."
Woman *intrerrupting me*:
"I don't want to buy it"
Me:
"Well then I apologise but I can't see how I can help"
Woman:
"Get it for me"
Me:
"We don't pay for our client's products, but we can give you offers on it"
Woman:
"No I don't want to buy it do you not understand?"
Me:
"Okay, then I am sorry to inform you that we do not deal with piracy and illegal software"
Woman:
"Why? I thought we were paying you guys for computer assistance and you're not helping"
Me:
"Ma'am what you're asking me to do is against the law"
Woman:
"Why? I thought everyone gets free software from somewhere on the internet like filelist(in botched english, more like fayelist)?" (Romanian tracker website)
Me:
"Yes, but torrenting from filelist is illegal and against our policy"
Woman:
"Why?"
Me:
"Because it's illegal and we'd run into legal problems when we get our monthly inspection as we have no proof of purchase"
Woman:
"Well just make one up or pay them to not look"
Me:
"Why not just pay for the software?"
Woman:
"Why would I pay for it. These stupid programs should be free for anyone"
Edit: No she didn't say that, it was something like "I already paid for my pc why pay for some stupid program" or something, you get the ideea
Me (aspiring to be a software developer, got a bit angry):
"I'm afraid software developers have to eat too ma'am"
Woman:
"Whatever I'm reporting you to your bosses for refusing to help me. Good day" *closes before I say anything*
Jesus Christ. Old people are so thick-headed it's not even funnyEdited: August 20, 2015
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